Since I realize that I am guilty of only sharing parts of stories and bits of information and therefore confusing my loyal readers about things that have happened in my life recently, I will explain a few things.
One of the biggest questions I get repeatedly is why I was so uneasy about getting into a relationship with Mr. Wonderful. As you may have read already, when I met him I had literally JUST gotten out of a relationship (maybe about 3 days earlier). If you read this post, I hinted at Mr. Wonderful having recently gotten out of a relationship as well. About 2 months before meeting me, Mr. Wonderful moved to DC after taking a job offer. Well, actually that’s not all the way true. He ran away from Atlanta after he found his fiance cheating on him.
The day of the wedding.
With the best man.
In their bed.
Yes, alot. I know. As if that were not enough, these 2 were childhood friends of his. He met his ex-fiance when he was 5. They started dating when they were 12 and stayed together ever since. His best man was his best friend; a man he’d met in the 6th grade that was there with him to experience more than half his life. So there’s that. That’s why he moved to DC; because he didnt wanna risk running into these 2 on the streets of Atlanta and couldn’t stand the memories haunting him. That’s why he could understand why I wanted to leave DC so badly.
So that’s part of the reason I was so skittish about just jumping into a relationship… I’d just gone through a bullshit breakup and he’d just gone through a TERRIBLE breakup. I just didn’t wanna be the rebound girl; I didn’t wanna be the person he just thought he had really strong feelings for because he was healing and then when he got enough distance from the situation and got some clarity he think to himself, “What the hell was I thinking?!?”
So that was mostly why I didn’t wanna get straight into a relationship with him. You know, that plus the fact that I was deathly afraid to. LOL
To answer the question I got from an anonymous (sp?) email from a reader catching up on my archives, I have no idea really why my ex-boyfriend and I broke up. The more I look back on it, the more I think it was the most bullshit thing I’ve ever experienced but that’s really another post. But because of this fact, it brings me to the second reason I was so hesitant about being with Mr. Wonderful; my breakup was so convoluted and so messy, still had so many lingering strings attatched that it was damn near impossible to make a clean break before entangling myself in someone else. And at the time I still had feelings for my ex so it just seemed wrong to be with someone while still hung up on someone else; especially someone as sweet and as freshly wounded as Mr. Wonderful, you know?
So there you go. I’m sure I’m missing some more stuff, but that’s a great part of the whole backstory that explains things a little better I think. If I missed something or if there is another story you don’t quite understand, please write me and let me know. I know I tend to leave holes and talk as though everyone on the internet is actually living my daily life with me. LOL