A Rose by Any Other Name…

I am the ex-fiance of my gay husband’s brother.

Get it?

I’ll give you a minute to connect the dots…

It’s not as bad as it may sound. My ex-boyfriend (who I now call my husband, the Will to my Grace) had a friend (whom he called brother) whom I got in a relationship with as you may have read and planned to marry this December (obviously not happening anymore). My ex-boyfriend is now in a happy relationship with another guy (hence the gay husband part).

Maybe it is as bad as it sounds. But this isn’t about you judging me. LOL

Technically speaking, this is all true. These are all correct titles. Some I am happy about, some I wish I’d never worn. But how important is it really? What’s in a name? Do you think differently of me knowing that I planned to spend the rest of my life with my ex-boyfriends best friend? Was my year and a half long relationship with my ex and less meaningful because now he is with a man? Is our friendship more solid because he can call me his ex-girlfriend? Am I not the same woman I was before the details?

Really, fundamentally, the names are just labels, titles we put on things to be able to categorize them, to understand them, to figure them out. They are just words. They are just titles.

Then why is the title so important to us?

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