Jam posted 5 questions on her page and I asked her to interview me. So here we go…
1) what was your (now) laughably worst date ever?
Oh my damn. I went out on a date with this guy, I think it was after Almost Fiance and I broke up. He was great on paper; funny, intelligent, great job, no serious mama issues to speak of, so on and so forth. We go to the Cheesecake Factory cuz I am seriously craving some chicken fettucini. We start talking about our relationships with our parents; nothing too serious, just light, shallow first date convo. All of a sudden this grown ass man STARTS TO CRY into his food. And I’m just sitting there like…. OH YOU HAVE GOT TO BE FUCKING KIDDING ME?!?! SO BAD.
2) why are you such a fighter?
I think it’s because I am small, and because I am light skinned. I’ve always been underestimated because of both. People thought that because I was small they could pick on me. Girls thought because I was pretty, that I was an easy target. I couldn’t possibly be pretty AND stand my own ground. I couldn’t be smart AND be able to fight. So I spent alot of time proving myself growing up, and I guess the defense to fight just never quite left. I can honestly say I have never started a fight, but I’m always waiting for someone to try me, and I’m always ready to go for broke when they do, lol.
3) i believe you said you could cook, what’s the meal or dish you do when you really want to impress someone?
It depends on the person. Usually I throw down southern soul food style; fried chicken, mac and cheese, greens, hot water cornbread, green beans, and I make DAMN good ghetto tea. If I’m trying to be fancy, I make a pretty good chicken alfredo. And if I’m feeling my roots, I make pretty good flautas and empanadas. In short, I throws down in the kitchen when I want to.
4) if you weren’t a ride or die, southern hoodrat chick (lmao! i know you’re gonna love that), what would you be? one of those ride or die hood chicks from jerz, ny or dc?
LMAO!!! Jam if I didn’t love you like I do… I’d totally have to admit that statement is semi right. I think no matter where I was from, I’d be the same ride or die way, and that goes for my man or my friends. I think it has more to do with how I was raised and the things I saw growing up; loyalty was always a big, important issue. It’s SO important to me. I ride for the people I love because there are very few people I let in; and those I do, I’d die for. Because if they’re important enough for me to love them, then they’re important enough for me to lay down my life for. There are few and far between. But it’s just a part of my makeup. A sense of loyalty and honor was just instilled in me from so many influences early on. I think even if I was from anywhere else, I’d be the same. I’d just have a different accent, lol.
5) what was the most defining moment of your life?
As corny as it sounds, I would have to say my parent’s divorce. I was pretty young when they broke up and it shaped the entire rest of my life. I couldn’t always see it at the time, but looking back on many things I can see how it’s all related. People always say that divorce changes children for the rest of their lives but you never really grasp that concept until you’re the child. It has shaped so much, from my outlook on relationships, to my ideas on family, communication, my drive for my career, just, EVERYTHING. It fundamentally changed me. I think had my parents not broken up, I’d be a totally different person.
Yay! Who else wants to interview me? And who wants to be interviewed? Leave it in the peanut gallery…