Organized Noise invited me to do this one…
1. What is the best relationship advice you’ve ever received?
“Love cannot exist where ego is present.” I have never seen a relationship where there is an exception to this rule. I don’t think you can truly love someone where your biggest concern is still self; how you will look to others, how you will benefit from the relationship. It just can’t happen. And I don’t think it’s true of just romantic relationships, but I don’t think love can truly exist where your greatest concern (or fear) is still for you.
2. How many people have you dated at once? How many people do you think it is acceptable to date at once?
I have realized recently that contrary to my previous thought, I AM a relationship person despite not ever having actually looked for a relationship. That being said…
But in my defense, I was single and in the middle of a scientific experiment, lol. I was testing the theory of “The Starting Five”. You know, where you date 5 distinctily different men who all fulfill different needs you have?
Well, yeah. And before you call me a hoe, no I was not sleeping with (all) of them. Maybe I’ll tell you guys that story one day.
3. What made your worst kiss so bad?
Ugh! It felt like a shower!!! It was sooooo wet and gross and awkward and just BAD. I was so disappointed too because he was sooooooo extra fine, but it was soooo not good. *shudders*
4. Can a relationship last if the sex is bad?
Yes. But only if both partners are willing to work on it. Sex, to me, isn’t just a physical act. Sex is a form of communication. From sex you can truly gauge where your relationship is (if you’re paying attention) but having bad sex is just like not being able to have a conversation. If both people aren’t willing to explore ways to open up that line of communication, it’s doomed.
5. What one thing would you like your partner to do every time you have sex with them?
That would solely depend on the person. But I find that most guys just don’t put a premium on kissing anymore. And I LOVE kissing. LOOOOOOVE. I remember back in high school with First Love when I was still petrified of sex and thought you could get pregnant from any kinda physical contact (Catholic school will do that for you), we would just kiss FOREVER. And afterwards I would always feel so weak. Even now, a really good kiss will do that to me. I wish more men would realize the kinda dividends that just paying a little bit more attention to kissing could pay.
Bonus (as in optional): What is your secret weapon to lure in the opposite sex?
If I tell you, it won’t be a secret anymore. *wink* All you need to know is that my aresenal of weaponry is vast and varied, and I have just about every weapon needed to take out any mere mortal man depending on his weakness.
I can tell you one thing that seems quite alluring to men is my general love of talking shit. (Women too actually.) What they don’t realize is that it goes both ways; if they can go toe to toe with me, they’re golden.